How Childhood Trauma Affects You in Adulthood?
Trigger Warning: Information presented in this article may be triggering to some people. This blog contains discussions about childhood trauma.
Trauma is an overwhelming event that overcomes our capacity to cope. Trauma affects us emotionally, mentally, physically, and in our relationships. Examples of trauma that can affect childhood are sexual or physical abuse, natural disaster, car crash, neglect, and violence in the home. Adults who experience trauma as children are more likely to suffer from physical, mental, emotional conditions or illnesses, like post-traumatic stress disorder.
What is Childhood Trauma?
Defined by The National Institute of Mental Health as “the experience of an event by a child that is emotionally painful or distressful, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects.”
Trauma can affect a child by experiencing or witnessing something traumatic. Whether it was abuse or witnessing something like a car crash, those events can have a lasting impact on a child's development. Between the ages of newborn to 6 years old is when a child’s brain grows and develops, and is more vulnerable to trauma. The common types of trauma are abuse (physical, emotional, and sexual), neglect (abandonment, physical/emotional needs are not met), and child’s household/ environment (mental illness, substance abuse, domestic violence, or divorce).
Signs and Impact of Childhood Trauma
Adults who experience childhood trauma are most likely to have panic disorders and affective disorders.
Also called mood disorders, affective disorders are mental illnesses such as depression and bipolar. These disorders affect the way you think and feel. The symptoms may range from mild to severe. The symptoms of depression include extreme sadness, feeling hopelessness, or thoughts of suicide. The episodes of depression can last for days, weeks, months, or even years. There are many forms of depression-like major depressive disorder, persistent depressive, and postpartum depression.
Bipolar is a mood disorder that causes extreme mood swings. Bipolar disorder may have episodes of happiness followed by despair. Your mood shifts back and forth, it may happen once in a while or a few times in a short period of time.
Panic disorder also known as anxiety is an intense fear that can cause unexpected panic attacks. The symptoms of a panic attack may include a fast heartbeat, dizziness, chest pain, or shortness of breath. Panic attacks can happen without warning.
Symptoms of childhood trauma can also include flashbacks, emotional numbness, self-destructive and impulsive behavior, poor sleep (hard to go to sleep, stay asleep or wake up) wanting to sleep too much, nightmares, and physical symptoms like nausea and headaches, intense feelings of guilt, an altered sense of shame.
Healing from Childhood Trauma
As you may know, unresolved trauma can manifest itself as depression, anxiety, and many other ways. Recognizing those symptoms can be a sign of relief. Seeking help may be hard but it is also necessary. Healing from trauma is a long journey, it takes time. Here are three ways you can start to heal from childhood trauma.
Seek Therapy
Considering therapy is an important part of healing childhood trauma. Take your time to find a therapist that you are comfortable with. Whether it is group therapy, individual therapy, or both seek the right treatment for you. The treatment is according to your needs.
Write
Writing poetry, journaling, or short stories are ways that you can express yourself and your feelings. Writing is another form of therapy and includes health benefits.
Exercise
Exercise has many benefits in healing trauma. It contributes to weight loss, boosts the immune system, increases good physical health, and has a positive impact on mental health.
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Why is Mental Health Important?
What is the first thought you have when you hear about mental health? Most people associate mental health with only relating to illness. Mental health is part of our overall health.
What is Mental Health?
Mental health includes emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Mental health constitutes (be a part of a whole) wellness and illness. It affects thinking, mood, and behavior. Also, it affects daily living, relationships, and physical health. Mental health influences how you see yourself, your life, and other people.
What Is Mental Illness?
According to the American Psychiatric Association website. Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in emotion, thinking or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.
Mental illness is a physical illness of the brain which changes the way you think, behave, energy or emotion and causes it to be difficult to cope. The common illnesses are anxiety and depression.
“ You can have anxiety but still sound confident. You can have depression but still, smile and make jokes. You can feel suicidal but still, turn up to work every day and appear fine.”
- The Depression Project
Mental Health Affects Physical Health
Studies show that mental illness impacts physical health directly and indirectly. For example, depression impacts mood and motivation but also can affect the immune system. People with depression often feel tired and overwhelmed and physically you become fatigued. Also, anxiety and anger can trigger heart attacks.
How to Improve Mental Health and Physical Health?
The key facts of being mentally healthy are that you can cope with life stresses, you become physically healthy, you can manage and be productive in work and relationships, and you know your own potential. There are several ways to take care of your mental health. The most important part of being mentally healthy is self-care and seeking counseling. Self-care involves good sleeping patterns, seeking activities that you enjoy, and taking a walk outside. Some people can also benefit from counseling or seeing a therapist. You don’t have to have a mental illness to seek a therapist.
Here are some other ways to practice self-care: 31 Tips To Boost Your Mental Health (Mental Health America).
Taking care of your mental health means that your physical health can improve and vice versa. Eating healthy, exercising, and taking a break from the screen (tv, tablet, computer, etc) are some ways you can improve your physical health.
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Meditating on Scripture and the Benefits of Keeping a Prayer Journal
Meditating on Scripture and the Benefits of Keeping a Prayer Journal
By Joanne Guillard
What is Meditation?
Meditation is focusing your thoughts, studying, and reflecting on God’s word and it’s meaning. Having a peaceful mind and being filled with God’s word. Being led by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit will guide and enlighten the passage for you.
“Meditation is reflecting, considering, pondering and contemplating.”
“Meditation is learning to think of God in the busyness of real life.”
How to Meditate on Scripture?
Read the passage several times
Write the scripture down
Look up words you don’t understand
Read a different translation or version
Post verses around the house
Benefits of Keeping a Prayer Journal
Personal Accountability
A journal can help you keep track of your prayer requests. You will feel motivated to pray more often, if you haven't prayed for awhile.
Draws You Closer to God
No matter how you pray, prayer brings you closer to God. Whether you’re speaking or writing it down, it helps grow your relationship with God.
Your Testimony and Gratitude
You can look back and see how you’ve grown and be more thankful. It will allow you to reflect on what's good and more to look forward to.
A prayer journal is also a great way to pray for others. Writing down your prayers helps you remember what and who to pray for.
Bible Verses:
Joshua 1:8
Philippians 4:7-8
Psalm 1
Romans 12:1-2
Deuteronomy 8:2
Psalm 143:5
Colossians 1:10
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Facts and Signs of Concealed Depression
Facts and Signs of Concealed Depression
By Joanne Guillard
Most people's idea of depression is someone that is sad or someone that struggles to get out of bed in the morning. But depression is often unseen and undiagnosed. But many people suffer from concealed depression. Concealed depression is when a person with depression may be able to hide their symptoms well. Those who suffer from concealed depression feel an emptiness and isolation that goes unnoticed.
Depression has many faces. It's not only looking sad, but most of the time it’s the people that seem happy and smiling, the quiet person that you pass by every day, or the funny person that always makes others laugh.
People with concealed depression mask their pain and struggles. Most people cover up how they feel and don’t want to be a burden to others. They may seem to have it all together but on the inside their fighting with different emotions.
It may seem like there's no reason to be sad. They go to work, go to school, and take care of their family. They are smiling and cheerful when you meet them. But they put on a mask while living a normal life. Another name for concealed depression is “smiling depression.” But the closest technical term is atypical depression (also called major depression with atypical features).
In general, it is hard to spot people suffering from depression. Depression is a silent killer. Signs and symptoms are different for everyone. But the most common signs and symptoms are no interest in activities they once loved, constantly saying “I’m fine” when they clearly aren’t, depression that temporarily lifts in response to good news or positive events, sensitivity to rejection or criticism, feelings of sadness, low self-esteem, sleeping too much or too little, lack of appetite or /overeating and, sometimes, suicidal thoughts.
Depression is an ongoing battle, and at times can occur throughout someone's life. If you or someone you know suffer from depression don’t ignore it. If they are showing signs of depression, keep them close, don’t give up on them, check on them.
Reach out and talk to someone you trust or speak with a counselor/therapist or helpline.
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The 100 Things I Love Most (Self-Reflection)
The 100 Things I Love Most (Self-Reflection)
Written by Joanne Guillard
I saw this activity online and I decided to do my own list of things I love to do or would like to do. It’s a self-reflection activity that gives me a better outlook on life and expresses gratitude.
Meeting new people who inspire me on a deep level (spiritual, emotional, etc.) but most of them don’t realize it.
Learning new things.
Teaching others.
Family and God.
Comfy shoes and clothes (over sized t-shirts/hoodies/sweaters are my favorite).
Dogs (small breeds).
Bear hugs.
Forehead kisses.
Writing.
Photography (portraits, personal projects, street/urban).
The beach at sunrise.
A good laugh.
A long shower after stressing for whatever reason.
A nice cup of hot chocolate or tea anytime of the day.
Nice walk around the city as a tourist or walk around the neighborhood.
Taking my bra off at the end of the day.
Listening to gospel music.
Rediscovering 90s music.
Seeing other people happy and treating each other with respect.
Being alone (but not all the time).
Looking at the stars (even though there’s not that many most of the time) and the moon at night.
Warm weather.
Binge-worthy tv series.
Relaxing with a good movie.
Working with people that are respectful and whom I can learn from.
Motivational speeches.
The innocence of childhood.
Italian food, especially lasagna.
A clean house.
Having enough money.
A good night's sleep.
Art (visual and performing).
Decluttering in general.
Going to the theater.
Giving to the needy/volunteering.
The idea of traveling and actually traveling one day.
Lunch dates/dinner dates.
Reading the bible.
Great customer service.
Random acts of kindness.
Respectful and loyal people.
Having control of things I can control.
Online shopping (mostly buying cameras or books).
Enjoying a funny movie.
Genuinely funny people.
Board games and card games.
Sports (mainly basketball, but haven’t played since grade school).
Bowling (haven’t gone bowling since high school).
Hanging out when genuinely nice people.
Having a conversation with someone that actually listens/hears me.
Green apples.
White/milk chocolate.
Chocolate candy bars (snickers/Twix).
A good handshake.
Being called love (but by the right person).
Being called Joanna.
My natural hair.
The color green and purple.
Tacos.
When good wins over bad.
Meaningful/deep poetry
A real meaningful, respectful, and loyal relationship/friendship.
Road trips (haven’t been hopefully someday).
When someone knows all your secrets and never tells a soul.
Seeing a rainbow after the rain.
Someone who actually respects who I am.
Being called beautiful.
Being called pretty girl.
Holding doors open for strangers.
Saying hi to people I come across.
When someone remembers what I said.
When people pronounce my name right.
When someone holds the door open for me.
When someone responds to texts or a message instantly.
Finding out someone else does the same weird things I do.
Finding out I’m similar to someone else (but I’m too scared to talk to them).
When someone is themselves around me (good or bad, lets me know who is real or fake).
People that are encouraging and inspiring.
When someone actually makes time for me.
Burgers and fries.
Countryside.
Praying for other people.
Raining days and raining nights (when I’m at home).
Unique/weird personalities.
Honesty.
Private and meaningful conversation with the right person.
Finally finishing a project I worked hard on.
A good workout.
Quiet time (Having me-time clears my head and recharges me from the draining effects of the outside world).
Someone who knows me understands me and is not judgmental.
Daydreaming.
Dreamers.
When the younger generation respects the older generation.
How my legs are shaped.
Talking to myself (in my head).
Eating out at restaurants.
Window shopping.
Being close to the right person.
Getting to know new people.
Knowing that Jesus loves me.